Still??? When will this ridiculousness stop?

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I just read this article and I must say I am so completely outraged over this.  Here is the link, take a minute and read it then come back.. I’ll wait..  http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/customers-called-fat-girls-restaurant-bill-165554715–abc-news-topstories.html

SERIOUSLY?????  When oh when will people stop looking at the color of someone’s skin, the size of their jeans, the shape of their eye’s to judge what kind of people they are?  As someone who use to weigh over 260 pounds I understand these women’s complete and total shame and guilt and humiliation they are now reeling from.  I only hope and pray that they stand their ground and do not stand for anything less then a public apology and serious disciplinary actions against the individuals who not only did it, but laughed at it and joined in on it. Hell I hope they take them to civil court.  I understand that the business owner was not there and cannot control the employee‘s 100% and has already apologized so I do not believe that he should be sued over this.  The people who did this however, can and should be sued.

I remember going out to eat when I was 8 months pregnant with my son.  It was an all you can eat Chinese Buffet.  I seriously did not eat that much because my son was killing my stomach and I couldn’t get much in.  I ate one plate that only had about half of it filled and went back to get an egg roll.  This horrible woman who worked there and knew me and the other employee’s I worked with because we ate there a few times a month, usually once a week at least, looked at me and said ‘You so fat, you no need second helping”!  I was humiliated beyond belief.  My co-worker Barbara told the woman “She’s not fat she’s pregnant you witch” and the woman apologized but by then the damage was done, I was humiliated and in tears.  This wasn’t the first time I had been completely degraded while eating, I guess fat people are never suppose to eat because we have enough fat stored on us that we don’t need to ever eat again.

The really ironic thing is, now I’m down to 147 pounds, I’ve lost over 120lbs from my heaviest weight and I’m still discriminated against.  I’ve had people tell me “Your TOO skinny, you need to eat”.  My own nephew (who was extremely angry with me) called me an “Anorexic B**ch”, ya know because if your skinny you obviously have a eating disorder, ESPECIALLY if you loose weight.

Because of all the name calling I’ve heard my entire life I now suffer from Body Dysmorphic Disorder.  It will never matter how much weight I lose or gain, the plastic surgeries I am facing to correct the problem areas I’m always going to hate my body, thanks to people like these ignorant jerks.  Nothing would please me ore then to see them become fat one day and have someone make them feel the same way.

 

Advocate Against Discrimination

Advocate Against Discrimination (Photo credit: FreePride Foundation Project)

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7 thoughts on “Still??? When will this ridiculousness stop?

  1. SMH… I will touch on this at some point! What we see outside ourselves is what we see inside! A heartbeat is a place that anyone can chose to see. It doesn’t take labeling it takes knowing! Knowing knows no difference it only knows connection. It neither needs seeing, hearing, touching, smelling, tasting to know connection. It sees energy in motion! Evolution is in cycle.. Our existence can not continue unless we embrace just that! It’s coming!

    • wonderfully put. It is just such a shame.. I suffer so badly from the harsh words put upon me from people who didn’t know me, some who did and some who claimed to love me. I try very very hard to never label anyone just by sight.. I’ve tried to make sure my kids Know not too also

  2. I fear that will never happen. Where I live, the discrimination is so bad and it’s against everyone.. not just one single race or size or gender.. it’s rampant. Until more people become truly educated in all aspects of life, not just reading and writing nothing will change. It also lays on Hollywood (sadly) to show that bullying in any form is not funny, not acceptable and not “good TV”. Movies like “Shallow Hal” infuriate me so badly I literally get sick to my stomach.

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