I thought I’d touch on each one myself.
1) “I really don’t respect you”.
I can completely understand why you should never say this to a man, or a woman in any relationship. Fact is if you have no respect your relationship is not a healthy one and you should probably either go to therapy to try to figure out where it all went south and work on correcting it, or get the hell out. Life’s too short to be with someone who doesn’t respect you.
2) “Your tummy is so cute”….
Now in this article the guy says “call it what it is- a beer gut“. Yeah I’m thinking that wouldn’t go over too well either. Absolutely nobody likes to have their flaws called out. I know I have called my husband a teddy bear and he hated it. I was trying to be nice and let him know that I loved him no matter what his tummy looks like. Now I just don’t reference it at all. I encourage him to work out and try not to say a word when he doesn’t. I myself have gone through the steps to shed over a hundred pounds, I know how hard it is and I also know that if the other person doesn’t really want to do it, nothing you say will motivate them… so mum’s the word.
3) “I love when you get all mad”
Unless you are in the very early stages of your relationship and your probably 18 or 19, I doubt very seriously that any sane woman would ever say this! I hate it when he gets all mad. He’s a bulldog and when he gets mad I’m the one who has to hear it.. so yeah.. NO..
4)”He acts like such a baby when his team loses”
I’ve been lucky in my dating/married life and never really dated a “DIE HARD” fan. I mean my current husband is a Steelers fan and even has a tattoo of them but does he watch every single game? No. Does he get all pissy and act like a big baby when they lose, no. Which is good cause I’d have to put him in his place on it. I have known both men and women who act like this and well.. get over it already. It’s just a damn game.
5) “Do whatever you want”
I feel like this, if a woman has gotten to the point that she’s made enough to say these words.. well a) you’ve already screwed up and you know it and b) if you chose to do whatever you want I’m sure you already know that would be the wrong thing to do. But your grown ass men so make your decision wisely.
6) “Do you think I actually believe you?”
Now, if this is an isolated incident like maybe there was 1 piece of Double Chocolate cake left and now it’s gone and there is only 2 of you living there and the other one is saying they didn’t eat it.. well that’s just funny that they’d try to lie about it… but if it’s something big like your not believing they were really at work or they weren’t talking up that girl then you have trust issue’s. And without trust you have no relationship.
7)”Your just like your dad”
Well get over it, chances are you are just like your dad and you know it! You men tells us all the time we are just like our moms. Truth is we are our parents. They raised us, taught us right from wrong, loved us.. why wouldn’t be like them? Duh
8) “What do you think that was about?”
This one referred to the bedroom. Maybe your man was a two pump chump that night, or worse didn’t even show up for the fun. Fact is, at some point all men will have this problem, and ya know what? We women have it too. The only difference is you can’t see our problem like we can theirs. If he doesn’t complete his stellar performance on occasion, cut him some slack. We all get tired, we all get stressed and sometimes we agree to sex even when we don’t really feel like only to try and please our partner. Now if it happens quite often you need to determine what the problem may be. Is it medical? Is it stress related? Is it weight? Is it that there is a personal issue between the two of you that you haven’t worked out yet? Ask the tough questions and then take the correct steps to correct it.
9)”Should I call the emergency room and let them prepare?”
Really.. this is a question you should never ask a man? Man, the male species apparently is thin skinned. I’m willing to bet that if a woman is asking this question you’ve at some point shown that you may not be the best man to re-shingle the roof. Maybe the last time you tried to fix the faucet it flooded the entire bathroom? Yeah yeah, we all know and understand that men want to be the protector, the bread winner, the mr. fix-it’s.. but not all men are mechanically inclined, just like not all women are the best chefs/bakers. I know some women who can’t boil water!! So if she’s asking you this question, take it as the smart ass joke w/ the truth underlying in it and move on. Buck up butter cup, she only has your best intentions at heart.
10) “Are you sure we can afford that?”
OKAY WOW.. this one is a HUGE thing in my home. After reading what they said I can see where the wording of this question can be a little wrong but.. if you have someone who has the mind set of “Well, we get paid again next week” and can’t save a freaking dime.. then yeah.. sometimes you gotta be blunt. Plus, if your going to go buy a big ticket item, you really should have done your homework BEFORE you went into the store. Salespeople wait all day long for suckers who don’t.
Well, that’s my take on it, what’s yours?