Through the bad comes the good

2016 was not a good year!  The USA has been so divided and fueled with anger and rage.  Riot after riot, protest, fake news and so much more.  The Celebrity world was rocked over and over again, right up to the last hours on the last day of the year with death after death.  For me personally, it was a very long year because of our financial situation.  Even though we were finally at the 12 yard line at our own goal.. it was still going to be a very long very hard year.   I’ve been out of work for almost 2 yrs now due to medical issue’s and this was the last year of our financial obligation.  The two mixed together has been impossible.  We barely made ends meet when I was working, when I had to stop those ends got further and further apart.  We have had to let every credit card go to the creditors (and those were only used to buy groceries and put gas in the cars).  We had a repossession and so many other things thrown on us that it just seemed like it was destined to be a year of heartache and failures… but it wasn’t.  Even through all the hell, heaven showed through.  So hear is my year in a nut shell.

The beginning of the year started out like the last 10, us at home ringing in the new year with lots of food and sitting at the table playing games, listening to music or whatever.  The only difference was my daughter went to her friends for the night.  They get older and suddenly sitting at home with the parents isn’t as much fun as it used to be!  So it was a quiet beginning.

Jan/Feb/March were all quiet.  Just us at home trying to survive.  The cold had me indoors most of the time.  Then in April I was given a fantastic surprise!  My sister.. my best friend in the whole wide world came to visit me… and she whisked me away to NYC.  I blogged about it so ummm.. you shoulda read it by now.  🙂  It was amazing.  I fell in love with the city and I can’t wait to go back and explore some more! I wish I could live there!  At least have a place that I could go stay whenever I wanted to!  1 thing off my bucket list!  And honestly it was something I never thought I would get to mark off.

May brought on my son’s 19th bday and my 7th wedding anniversary.  Both very low key because of that whole no money thing.  But we were alive and healthy so that was reason enough to celebrate.

June saw another thing I’d never been a part of before.. I got to witness the birth of my great nephew ( I blogged about it too).  Both of my kids were CSections so I never actually saw the births.  It was truly a miracle to see.  I stayed in tears with the biggest grin.  Such a blessing to be a part of it.

July took my babies to Texas to visit their family.  My son got to go this time, it’d been years since he went so he was very excited to go.  He really misses his poppy and grandma and Aunts and Uncles and cousins.. so he was in heaven to see them again. The rest of summer was pretty quite.  Most days at the pool trying to get slim and tan, neither was accomplished!  Got a lil red sometimes but managed to avoid the intense lobster red I’m so accustomed to turning into it.

August found us in the ER with a facial wound!  My daughter was cleaning and rearranging her room when she accidentally hit the light with her mattress and looked up just in time to see the glass falling down.. right into her face!  Luckily she got clocked in the nose, a half an inch in either side she’d have gotten her eye!  She got a couple of stitches and worried constantly about the “scar” she was going to have.  I kept telling her it’s character but she kept freaking out about it.  She’s better now, even though she still complains that it sometimes hurts.  My birthday came and went in August too… I’ve decided I don’t wanna go up in age  So from now on every birthday will be my 40th!

September was back to school and back to doing nothing for me!  The pool closed so I just stayed in.  I know.. I’m exciting.

October found us back in the ER.  Yup, my daughter again.  She’s very athletic, she is on the cheer squad, track team and basket ball team.  She’s always said he knee’s hurt some but you’d have to see her to understand why I never overly worried about it.. she’s all knee’s and elbows so I just thought she’d grow into her body.  Except she came home one day and her knee was super swollen.  The doctor came in and looked at me then looked at her and said “You’re just like your mother.. see how she’s weird shaped from the hips down? Well, you’re weird shaped to”.. she was being truthful but in a funny teasing way. She said “Your mother is knock kneed and pigeon toed.. you can see it clearly just by looking at her.. and you’ve inherited those qualities”.  Poor thing.  Not to mention she’s hyper extended so she looks like a Flamingo when she’s standing.  So as soon as I was discharged from my PT because there was nothing else they could do for me, she was sent!  They only thought they were rid of me! HA!   I also dressed up this Halloween.. something I haven’t done in years!  I decided to go as Negan and I think I did a pretty good job on my costume!  I even made my bat!


November came and found us trying to prepare for the holidays as well as our daughters birthday.  Having a baby born in December makes parties difficult.  If you wait til after Thanksgiving everyone is busy and no one show’s up so we started doing her parties before Thanksgiving even though her birthday is mid December.  And because she’s such a spoiled diva this means she has multiple parties… lol.. I indulge when I can.  So we had her bday party and everyone showed up!  Which is always good and the kids had a blast.  Then we had Thanksgiving at home, very quiet.  Which leads us to December..

December was the FINALLY moment of the year.  We had made it!  10 years of purgatory was finally over!  The court ordered garnishment was done!  Everyone keeps asking us how it feels to be rich now.. but we are so far from that!  The first, second and third paychecks with out those payments were just in time to have Christmas, Birthday and rent!  So there’s been no extra money, but I’m not complaining.  Quite the opposite actually.  For the first time in more than 10 yrs we were able to finally have a good Christmas on our own.  Everyone always says “it’s the thought that counts” or “Christmas isn’t about giving gifts” but unless you are a parent who cannot do for your kids you don’t understand the feeling of failure that comes from not being able to do those things.  We’ve been graced with great friends who have helped us out many many times.. and I’ve been so thankful for those angels.. but I’ve wanted to be able to finally be at a place where I could buy the things my kids wanted on my own.. with no help and this year we did!  They didn’t have hundreds of gifts.. or the most expensive things in the world but they were happy and that filled my heart up!  Plus… my step son came to visit.  Y’all have no idea how happy that made my husband.  I don’t think his feet have touched the ground yet!  The fact that his son bought his own tickets and chose to spend the holiday with him was the greatest gift he could have ever gotten, other than if his daughters did the same thing!  It truly was a perfect Christmas.  My baby girl had her birthday and her sleep over party and she got the boots she wanted.  Well kind of.. she wanted Uggs but ain’t nobody got money for those! So instead we got her a really good pair from Kohls (with them on sale and Kohls 20% off with $10 Kohls cash!) so she was super excited!

So through a year of hardships and tragedies this year was really pretty good for us.. the most amazing thing of all.. My sister, the one who took me to NYC was diagnosed with cancer again this year.  It is her 5th time fighting this horrible disease.. she never let it get her down.. staying positive through everything.. she got her results from her pet scan the other day.. SHE IS CANCER FREE!!!! THANK YOU JESUS.  she is my rock.. my soul mate among friends.. she deserves so much good to come her way.. and getting those results is hopefully the start of good fortune windfall for her.


So happy new year all.  I hope 2016 wasn’t bad for you.. and if it was.. I hope 2017 will be so much better!



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