I saw a picture on facebook the other day of two old people who were holding hands and walking away and it had a caption “How did we stay together for so long, it’s because our generation thinks if something was broke you fixed it”….
This made me wonder, you know ponder the universe and all that. Y’all know me, you know my mind goes non-stop ESPECIALLY on stuff that really doesn’t matter. With the rising divorce rates in America is it because we now just no longer want to use the needed energy to make a relationship work, or do we realize we just don’t want to put up with the shit and move on? I ask this because I myself am a 2 time divorcee 3 time bride. My first husband was really satan in disguise. He was brutal in his attacks, both physically and verbally. To this day I still carry around the scars, scars on my body and in my mind. Should have I stayed with him and tried to work it out? HELL NO. My second husband was his distant cousin. Not quite the demon Satan himself is but ruthless nonetheless. I ended up having 2 children with this one, I stayed for 13 years trying to make it work. It only got worse and worse. Should I have continued to stay and tried to make it work so that he could continue to abuse me and our children? HELL FUCKING NO. I did what I had to do to survive and keep my children safe, I left and never looked back.
100 years ago women were taught that marriage was forever, no matter what the man did. We were second class citizens even in our own homes, we were abused and beaten, raped and forced to stay and tolerate it, praying the next beating would never come or wouldn’t be as bad. Now I’m not saying ALL men were like this, but it is a fact that women were thought of as property to men. It wasn’t like Charles and Caroline Ingalls, where he’d do anything and everything for her and never ever did wrong by her. Times they have changed and divorce is no longer a “bad” word. I will admit that divorse is wildly overused and glorified in Hollywood so please don’t feel the need to tell me how everyone in the world is divorcing at the drop of a hat. I’m just simply stating that it is a good thing that divorce has become easier so that women and men who are being abused no longer have to stay and learn to live with it or die by it. I think maybe, just maybe if they instituted a marriage counseling period where couples had to attend a certain amount classes over a certain amount of time before they were allowed to marry people would find sooner that they aren’t compatible and wouldn’t marry causing a sharp decline in divorce. But if that happened, what on earth would that Kardashian chick do for press?
The fact is America is a “instant gratification” country, we always have been and always will be and it’s only going to get worse. Soon we will be able to divorce as quickly as they can in Mexico. That should really help Las Vegas out, I can see it now.. “WEDDING CHAPEL, WITH DIVORCES AVAILABLE AROUND BACK”! They’d double their profit margin in a matter of days! Think of it, Elvis can marry you and Eliabeth Taylor can divorce you.. . hahahahaha…